belt sander: no thanks

Dear ones, I have an unpopular opinion.

I don’t like belt sanders for sex.

Seems obvious, no?

But here’s the thing: an awful lot of women like the Hitachi Magic Wand.  They swear by it.  They say it’s the best/fastest/only way they get off.  And I’m the first to be behind that.  After all, if you know what you like, absolutely, positively, go for it!

Let me say that again: if you like the Hitachi Magic Wand (or anything else safe and legal)…awesome!

For me, however, it feels like a belt sander.  It’s beyond overstimulating.  It is painful.  As in, ow.  And I can’t tell you how many people have informed me that if I just took the time to get used to it, that I would like it.

So I need to say this:

I don’t want to get used to it.

I don’t want to like it.  I don’t want to become numb or desensitized or bored with other things.  I don’t want my partner to have to work harder when we make love.  I don’t want to lose my hearing by listening to painfully loud music, and I don’t want to make my clit less responsive by using a vibrator that overwhelms me.  My body is fine the way it is.

And so is yours.  And really, no one should be pressuring anyone else about it.

If you’re in a relationship there can be conversation, of course, and negotiation, and discussion.  There can be hope and requests.  But that’s not the same as telling someone what they should like.

If someone I love likes it in the bedroom, I’m all for it…for them.

But I’ll keep my belt sander in my woodshop.